Anal sex is becoming less and less taboo. And by that, I mean GREAT news, because women can actually enjoy butt play just as much as men do. Anal sex provides a different kind of fullness and can be really, truly intimate . Another major perk? Some women even experience full-on anal orgasms. With the right positions and a few helpful pointers, you could be one of them.
The anal opening is called the anus; it’s made of soft tissue and is packed full of nerve endings. The first few inches inside the anus is the anal canal. This is also made from soft tissue and has a high concentration of nerve endings. Beyond here is the rectum, which is about eight or nine inches long.
Why’s this important? When giving or receiving anal pleasure, it’s important to know that the anus and anal canal, being made from the same tissue, are most sensitive to touch and vibration. The rectum and inner part of the anal canal, on the other hand, have fewer nerve endings and are more sensitive to pressure.
Surrounding the anal canal and rectum are the internal and external sphincter muscles. They can work independently but usually, they work simultaneously.
What’s important to know is that you can learn to control the external sphincter and make it tense or relax but the internal sphincter is controlled by your central nervous system. Don’t worry, we’ll show you the EXACT breathing techniques and strategies you need to know to relax these muscles later!
This position is perfect for people who are relatively new to anal sex because it's easy to pull off (but still hot). "Use hand play first to ease into it and see how this position works for your before slipping in the penis," Encarnacion says. Once you decide it's a go, you can control how far down you sit onto your partner, which means you can go as deep or as shallow as you like. If you're looking to spice up the position, reach your hands around the back and grab your partner for more contact. You can also simultaneously play with your own clitoris or their balls for added stimulation. "Don't be afraid to get handsy with this one," Encarnacion says.
Regular Lotus is touted as one of the most intimate and romantic positions there is. Make it the anal version, and you take that intimacy up a notch (okay, several). Here, you're as close to your partner as possible, and you get some eye-contact time that can be oh-so-hot. "Making out during this one is a really great way to seal up that intimacy," Encarnacion says. One other note: He'll likely feel pretty deep, so go slow.
Have your partner sit on the bed or couch. Climb on top of their lap. Slide down so you’re face-to-face.
Anal sex in the cowgirl position is especially hot because it gives the person on top all of the control. It's also super easy for you and your partner to reach around and finger your vagina or rub your clitoris. And remember—there's more than just up and down movement. Rock back and forth too to provide yourself with another stimulation option, Encarnacion says.
Have you partner lie down faceup, then straddle them. Slowly slide yourself down at your own pace. Lean forward, placing both hands on your partner's chest or shoulders.
This might be one of the most advanced (and extreme, I must say) anal sex positions out there. For one, you need to be able to take all of him inside, since he's more or less sitting on top of your rear. Two, you can't move around much, so you have to be able to withstand all the action, at least for a bit. And three, look at that flexibility! Pro tip: Do some hip openers or pigeon poses to open up the hips before trying this one out, Encarnacion recommends. It will help release tension and loosen your body up. This way all you have to worry about is feeling good.
Lie on your back and bring your legs up over your head. The more flexible you are the better. Try to get your butt as high in the air as possible. Have your partner lower themselves onto you. He should have great access to lean down and stimulate your clitoris.
Reverse cowgirl may not be your favorite for regular P-in-the-V action (though your partner probably LOVES it), but in the anal sex world, the position is clutch. You get to control his depth and thrusting pattern with relative ease. Encarnacion recommends incorporating ball or clitoral play to the mix for an added layer of stimulation. And of course, your butt is right there, so having your partner pull your cheeks apart or push them together can feel also feel very satisfying.
Have your partner lie on their back. Straddle them backward and slide down at your leisure. Have your partner stimulate your clit, while you offer them an ultra-sexy view of your backside.